So they say if you love someone let them go and if they come back then that is how you know. I have to say I used to agree with this. Now I think that you'll know when they don't let you leave. When the person already knows your worth and what you mean to them. When just the thought of you leaving them makes their heart ache.
From my experience ex's are ex's for a reason. And getting back together with an ex is usually a bad idea and ends up back onto the path you were just walking. I'm not saying that it never works out but why do people go through that? Why break-up to make-up? Is it for the new found appreciation? Because I think that if you are with someone who treats you right then there should be no appreciation to be found, it should already be know.
I feel some people, especially women, do it to feel wanted again. Women need attention and reassurance on a regular basis and that is not something all men realize or provide. So what do women do? They cause a fight to create a chase. They want to know they are still desired by their man. I do realize it sounds stupid and sounds like a lot of work and it is, but let me tell you....it does work sometimes. But I am here to tell all the women out there that it is unnecessary! Simply talk to your man, tell him what you what, how you feel and why you think you feel that way. If you do not tell him how you feel then you should not expect him to know. Men are just that....men...not mind readers. Don't yell. Be calm, this is no reason to fight. And if you make it to where you are attacking him or putting him down you are only going to push him away. Maybe you should try to suggest to him things that he could do-not things he NEEDS to do! He is not a dog so don't command him.
Men, listen to your women. Sometimes being willing to listen to what we find wrong in the relationship is the biggest sign that you care. And if she starts to yell at you or bring her down then calmly let her know that you would like her to calm down so you both can work it out.
Relationship problems are NEVER one sided.
From my experience ex's are ex's for a reason. And getting back together with an ex is usually a bad idea and ends up back onto the path you were just walking. I'm not saying that it never works out but why do people go through that? Why break-up to make-up? Is it for the new found appreciation? Because I think that if you are with someone who treats you right then there should be no appreciation to be found, it should already be know.
I feel some people, especially women, do it to feel wanted again. Women need attention and reassurance on a regular basis and that is not something all men realize or provide. So what do women do? They cause a fight to create a chase. They want to know they are still desired by their man. I do realize it sounds stupid and sounds like a lot of work and it is, but let me tell you....it does work sometimes. But I am here to tell all the women out there that it is unnecessary! Simply talk to your man, tell him what you what, how you feel and why you think you feel that way. If you do not tell him how you feel then you should not expect him to know. Men are just that....men...not mind readers. Don't yell. Be calm, this is no reason to fight. And if you make it to where you are attacking him or putting him down you are only going to push him away. Maybe you should try to suggest to him things that he could do-not things he NEEDS to do! He is not a dog so don't command him.
Men, listen to your women. Sometimes being willing to listen to what we find wrong in the relationship is the biggest sign that you care. And if she starts to yell at you or bring her down then calmly let her know that you would like her to calm down so you both can work it out.
Relationship problems are NEVER one sided.
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