Love 'em let 'em go

So they say if you love someone let them go and if they come back then that is how you know. I have to say I used to agree with this. Now I think that you'll know when they don't let you leave. When the person already knows your worth and what you mean to them. When just the thought of you leaving them makes their heart ache.
From my experience ex's are ex's for a reason. And getting back together with an ex is usually a bad idea and ends up back onto the path you were just walking. I'm not saying that it never works out but why do people go through that? Why break-up to make-up? Is it for the new found appreciation? Because I think that if you are with someone who treats you right then there should be no appreciation to be found, it should already be know.
I feel some people, especially women, do it to feel wanted again. Women need attention and reassurance on a regular basis and that is not something all men realize or provide. So what do women do? They cause a fight to create a chase. They want to know they are still desired by their man. I do realize it sounds stupid and sounds like a lot of work and it is, but let me tell you....it does work sometimes. But I am here to tell all the women out there that it is unnecessary! Simply talk to your man, tell him what you what, how you feel and why you think you feel that way. If you do not tell him how you feel then you should not expect him to know. Men are just that....men...not mind readers.  Don't yell. Be calm, this is no reason to fight. And if you make it to where you are attacking him or putting him down you are only going to push him away. Maybe you should try to suggest to him things that he could do-not things he NEEDS to do! He is not a dog so don't command him.
Men, listen to your women. Sometimes being willing to listen to what we find wrong in the relationship is the biggest sign that you care. And if she starts to yell at you or bring her down then calmly let her know that you would like her to calm down so you both can work it out.
Relationship problems are NEVER one sided.

Social Sabotage- Reader Advice

Hey guys I got my first request for advice. Like I said before I will not reveal names and everything will be confidential.

Reader says,
"Alright, thing is. I am little socially awkward and I have a tendency to sabotage promising situations such as poteitially this one. How do I avoid doing that?
I don't really let people close to me very often."

I believe you need to figure out what people find awkward about you. Then instead of changing it you should embrace it! If you want people to really love you for who you are then changing is not the answer. Be yourself-enhanced. For example I am loud spoken and very strange at times. I like to sing and dance even when no music is playing and people are staring. I've come to learn that being embarrassed about it gives people their ammunition to disapprove but when flaws are embraced they become appreciated and present a unique-ness about oneself that others are actually attracted to. There is a reason the girl always falls for the bad boy...it is the "I don't care" attitude.
Now if certain people can't accept your socially awkwardness then they probably aren't the type of people you should have in your life, nor are they the type of people you should spend your love on. So I guess what I am trying to say is don't avoid it because if you try to avoid it you are denying people the chance to know who you really are and love you for who you really are.
Remember...true love, no matter who it comes from, loves the whole package entirely, the box, the contents, the broken pieces, the shiny pieces...all of it. Anything less is a dangerous recipe for heartbreak. This is best shown in the example of parents and their love for their children. A parent will love their child no matter what, that is why it is an ultimate bond. People should look for a similar love from their significant others and the friends they keep.

Hope I helped!

*Peace, Love, & Food*

Intro/ Half Life

So I have been thinking for awhile now that I want to start a blog. Something I can do to get thoughts out of my head that other people can read for inspiration, guidance, a feeling of mutual sorrows or happiness, the sake of killing time...whatever. If people read it then great, if they don't then I will still enjoy writing. If they  want to comment or ask questions or seek advise...even better! It took me about .037 seconds to think of my theme, Love. Love to me is the single most important thing on the planet and it is ALWAYS on my mind. Love for friends, love for family, love for a special someone, and especially love for oneself. My roommate and I joke that I am a "Modern Day Aphrodite"  or "Aphrodite's Reincarnation". But the more I think of it the more I agree with it. I wish I could help the whole world fall in love and find peace and happiness within love. That is perhaps why I spoil those I care about with love because it is the greatest gift anyone could ever give to me.
This blog will not be me talking about my current or past relationships....it is just simply my thoughts on certain situations of love. Now that is not to say that I won't draw from my relationships from time to time or use examples from other peoples relationships (names not used)
So lets get started shall we?...


I was at work today cleaning some windows and I began to sing to myself to distract from the daunting task that lay ahead of me. "Jar of Hearts" was stuck in my head and I got to the lyric, "I've learned to live half a life...". It got me thinking about heartbreak and the differences that people feel when they face it. I know exactly what she means when she says that. When you fall in love with someone- especially when you are married to them your hearts and souls become one. You may have two separate lives but you also have one life together. When that falls apart and the two souls separate I think that your soul is left as a half because your other half is no longer there. Both souls have learned to live off of each other and with each other. Fragile as they may be, souls are very powerful and very strong. They have a power beyond that of mere flesh...they have the ability to regenerate even after the deepest of wounds. A soul can grow again and learn to live on its own until one day it finds another to intertwine with. So the next time you are broken hearted and you think you cannot go on without this special person, just know that you will be ok no matter how impossible or long the journey in front of you seems. Being that I am a woman who has recently finalized her divorce I speak from experience. And I can tell you that I know my journey isn't over but I have definitely come to the most pleasant part of the trail. I am at peace with the death of the marriage and I am much stronger and more secure. I have found someone new and I am so thankful everyday that I have found someone who can bring a smile to my face and joy to my heart.

I would like to dedicate my 1st official blog to my boyfriend Rich Hills. You are absolutely amazing babe. You deserve the best and nothing less. This one is for you. XOXOXO

*Peace, Love, & Food*